The Journey Inward

This past weekend I listened to an Instagram reel by Mel Robbins called “Let Them Theory.” It was so simple, yet so revolutionary, and as usual, it was the Universe giving me the exact message I need to hear at the exact time I need to hear it.

Her premise is that we spend so much time and energy trying to control people. Maybe this is for our own comfort or safety. Or because we think we know best. Or are protecting ourselves from hurt. Or others. Whatever the reason, we insert ourselves, our ideas, our opinions, our demands, our criticism, our input, and in the worst cases, our manipulation and gaslighting into the lives and decisions of others.

Time for Let Them Theory. It goes like this…Our friends don’t invite us to brunch. Let them. Our partner doesn’t make a commitment. Let them. Our friend won’t run a 5K with us. Let them. Our company is laying us off. Let them.

When we let people be themselves, we can experience true peace. And here’s the second best part to that-when we let people be who they are, they reveal themselves to us. Who they truly are. What choices they make. What their values look like. What they want and need. The best part? We can then make decisions for ourselves based on information that is reliable and accurate. We can decide what comes next for us. Because we’ve let people be themselves. And my own addition is that we let people carry what’s theirs and learn their own lessons and follow their own values.