The Journey Inward

For the month of June, I am flipping through Clarity and Connection, by Yung Pueblo daily and randomly stopping at a page and reading. I am using the entry to delve into my thoughts and feelings, find what resonates, and see what answers it might hold for me. It is an exercise in building my Intuition, making space for creativity, and journeying inward so that I might know myself and others better. Today’s reading was on page 66.

"it is good and healthy to pursue our goals, but it serves us best to do so wisely and in a manner that does not make our happiness dependent on future achievements....the fate of our happiness [is not] connected to its realization....when things do not happen the way we want them to...we accept this reality without the intensity of pain or hurt."

To set a goal and remain flexible, to not tie self worth to accomplishment, to be open to the Universe, to not become attached to a desired outcome.  These are reminders for former goal setters like myself.  I treat myself with compassion when the urge to set a goal arises.  I remember that love and accomplishments were very much linked in my life.  That having and achieving goals were expected.  

I am gentle with the little girl who wants love and approval from the people who matter most and feels most comfortable when she is controlling outcomes.  Rigid adherence to attainable steps and predicted outcomes felt safe to her.  I welcome different paths that open before me and take me in directions I hadn't thought to go. I am quieter so that I can hear when an opportunity presents itself.  I recognize that my goals are "self inflicted," therefore I can change my mind any time I want to.  I can alter my goal or pursue a different one.  Or maybe none at all.  Detaching from the outcome helps me do this, as well as not hitching my happiness to the next hurdle.  Presence.