The Journey Inward

For the month of June, I am flipping through Clarity and Connection, by Yung Pueblo daily and randomly stopping at a page and reading. I am using the entry to delve into my thoughts and feelings, find what resonates, and see what answers it might hold for me. It is an exercise in building my Intuition, making space for creativity, and journeying inward so that I might know myself and others better. Today’s reading was on page 124.

"...harmony is not possible without deep knowledge of one another's likes, dislikes, emotional history, and goals.  the more you learn about each other, the more you refine your rhythm together."

No earthly love, no earthly relationship, can provide complete, comprehensive love.  We are imperfect individuals, unable to remove Self from our equation with others, hindering our ability to trust, give, receive, be altruistic, and keep our own thoughts of fear, trauma, self protection and self interest at bay.  But what we can do is seek to understand.  Understand each other on a deeper level.  Know what makes the other tick, share what lights us up.  Sharing our hopes, dreams, inspiration that others might champion us to higher levels.  Sharing our fears, insecurities and core beliefs that others might come alongside and treat us gently, kindly and with compassion and empathy.  Whether this is a child, friend, or partner, the more we know of one another, the more we are able to create a rhythm to our connection that honors us both.

"communication helps channel the love you feel for one another into clear ways of supporting each other's happiness."

It does not matter that we agree on all issues, that we share the same goals, or that we approach life from the same space.  What does matter is that we communicate with each other along the way, bringing the other along on our journey.  Through open and honest discourse, we can continue this rhythm, keeping our relationship a priority through the changes life brings.  When others understand our WHY, they can support us and help us reach new heights.

"perfection is not an option, but you can undoubtedly build a great union in which you both feel safe, understood, and loved."

A great union happens when we understand each other.  We know where we've come from, where we stand today, and where we're headed (generally speaking!).  It is one in which we give and receive love, both of which are skills that require honing and developing.  But no relationship can be successful without trust.  If we do not feel safe with another, our very foundation is shaky and unsure.  It is prone to cracks, holes and eventually collapse.  Safety entails honesty, open communication, alignment of words and actions, authenticity from both, and knowing that each person is doing their own work to be healthy and consistent.  We can be perfectly imperfect together.