The Journey Inward

Dear Love, what you would have me know today?

My Sweet One, today I would have you know that you have so much to be grateful for, but that is not the same as finding the silver lining to everything that has happened to you. Being grateful for where you are and what you have and who you are is a practice that serves you and reinforces the growth you have had in your life. It sets the stage for what is next for you and allows you to imagine big and bold ideas.

I mention the silver living part because you have spent too much time being overly empathetic, overly compassionate to those who don’t warrant your time and attention. You can wish people well and understand the pain that drives their actions without being a party to it. You are not OBLIGATED to sacrifice your peace, happiness and wellbeing for the sake of someone else’s comfort. This is your one life to live as fully as you can, and being small for others does not honor that.

Sweet One, I hear you say that it feels harsh to cut people out or back off, but what you need to know is that when you keep showing up for bad behavior, for unhealthy actions, you are enabling that behavior to continue. When you put up boundaries, you put the responsibility where it belongs…on the person. You know that no one gets better unless they want to. They have to do it for themselves. All your love, support, resources and suggestions won’t save them. And it won’t keep you safe.

Today, I want you to focus on the present – the sanctuary you bought and shaped into everything you need and nothing you don’t, the daughters who have grown up and gone out into the world to spread their gifts and talents, the profession you have wanted to work in since you were in first grade, the friendships you have gathered over the years, deepening their connection and vulnerability, the health and hobbies you enjoy, from piano to walking to kayaking to travel, the business you have started, working with women to encourage their journaling journey, the family you remain close to despite the loss of both parents, and the old relationship you are building anew, with more wisdom and maturity. My Sweet, spend time this Thanksgiving day and every day reveling in the life you have built. You have manifested love, light, laughter, and liberation.

Photo: Greenwich, CT. 9.30.23 by LA